Split Second

This post is dedicated to Rae and Carolyn, two angels God put in my path.

What is a SPLIT SECOND?

It is defined as an infinitesimal amount of time, an instant, a fraction of a second. It is so short and so fast -- faster than a blink or a breath, that it could go unperceived.

Although a split second is an extremely small period of time, it is long enough for a life-changing event to occur during its brief span.

Last Friday I was driving a rental car in downtown St. Paul, Minnesota. I was on 4th street and made a left onto Minnesota Street. I had the green light as I passed the intersection of Minnesota Street and 5th Street. As I was about to go through the next green light on 6th street, I happened to look to my right and saw a van approaching that intersection traveling at high speed. It was clear that the driver of the van was not going to stop. I was only a few feet from the intersection. I had to act fast. I looked in my rear view mirror to make sure nobody would rear-end me before I hit the breaks. I stopped the car but not fast enough to avoid being hit by the approaching vehicle.

The van hit the front of my car. The noise caused by the collision was deafening. The van was going so fast that it literally shaved off the front of my car without losing much speed. I saw as the hood of my car was bending towards me.  I did not know if I would end up trapped and crushed inside the car.

Many people quickly came to my rescue and asked me if I was okay. I cannot say I was scared. It was somewhat surreal.  I felt more like a witness than a participant in the accident. I got out of my car and yelled to witnesses and bystanders to please not let that driver run away. I took a picture of the license plates of the van that hit me.  The police, firefighters and paramedics came to the scene.

Because my rental car was totaled and towed to the city impound lot, I was carless and stranded downtown St. Paul. I called many friends to come get me. Some would not pick up my call and the few that did pick up, failed to understand the gravity of the situation. Most of them did not offer to come get me but would end the call with, "let me know if you need anything, ok?"  I would say to myself, "isn't that what I'm doing now?" My body was starting to feel the effects of the car accident and my emotional state was only adding to that pain. I felt helpless and alone. I started to cry.

Rae, a witness to the crash had offered to stay with me until I found a friend to come get me. When it was evident that nobody would come get me, she and Carolyn offered their company... and their home.  As I was riding in their car, I decided to post something on Facebook. That would for sure get someone's attention. Just a minute after I posted on Facebook, I received a call from my friend Marjorie, who eventually picked me up and later took me to an urgent care clinic.

It has been three days since the accident. It is surprising how much more my body hurts now compared to the day of the accident. I am not worried about my recovery. I know I can only get better. What I cannot seem to stop thinking about is how lucky I was to have that SPLIT SECOND to turn to the right, see that approaching vehicle and hit the breaks.  I know that if I had not stopped, I would have been t-boned by that van. I would have been crushed inside my car.... and probably killed.

I am profoundly humbled by this whole experience. I feel fortunate and grateful for this second chance in life, for being able to tell this story.

This message from Rae reflects this sentiment --

"Adriana, there were angels with you last night, but it wasn't me and Carolyn. The fact that you were able to see this car out of the corner of your eye, and with quick reflexes try to take evasive action saved you from a much more serious accident. Your rental car was completely totaled but you were able to walk away from this accident. I am sure that you are in a lot of pain today, but you are truly a very lucky woman..."

Because life is short, time is our most valuable asset. As my good friend Sebastian once told me, "time is the greatest gift a person can give somebody else" --  a gift  that we should treasure and enjoy. Although life seems to move extremely fast, let's not forget that every split second is an opportunity - an opportunity to go farther than we can imagine. So let's reach out for our dreams and make a difference in the world.

Making Peace

Update as of 10-15-2018 -- The Trevino vs. Alfieri case has been dismissed by both parties.  As we have agreed to move forward, the dismissed case will remain confidential.

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This is a continuation of my previous post The Ripple Effect. I dedicate this post to CV -- a kind-hearted man who will no longer have the opportunity to give his side of the story.  My original intention in writing this post was to act as CV's voice and clear his name as this chapter of his life closed. Out of respect to him and his family, I waited enough time to write anything about this and have kept his name and details of the events confidential.

I firmly believe that Alfieri falsely accused CV of physical assault. How do I know the accusation was false? Did I witness this incident? No, I was not there and was not a witness. So how can I claim that Alfieri made a false accusation?

Well, let's not forget that Alfieri shamelessly accused me of theft and slander while he was the one who defrauded and defamed me.  It does not surprise me that he would make stories about others. Just a month or two after he sued me in September 2011, he filed a harassment order against the former co-director/editor of "Looking for Clarissa" claiming she tried to push his Porsche off the road while driving at high speed on Santa Monica Blvd (Century City/Beverly Hills area). First of all, when can anyone drive fast on Santa Monica Blvd in that area of town? Second, he was the one who was driving the Porsche, wasn't he? And the most recent legal claim made by Alfieri that I am aware of was against his own Homeowners Association. I was told that Alfieri lost that lawsuit.

It is clear to me that Alfieri feels that he can use the "law" to try to intimidate or get money from the opposing party.  The problem here is that Alfieri uses outrageous untrue allegations to build "his case." These stories built on ridiculous lies eventually collapse.

It is true that I am still dealing with Alfieri and his unwillingness to take responsibility for what he has done. But my case is only a civil matter. What CV had to face were criminal charges that could have potentially meant time in jail. Although CV was clearly innocent, it is undeniable that he was scared and stressed as he awaited his trial.

I really do not want to get into specifics about what happened between CV and Alfieri. It does not really matter any more.  All I need to say is that CV was not aggressive or confrontational. On the contrary, he would always offer a smile to everyone with whom he interacted. CV was someone who saw the good in people and believed in generosity and forgiveness.  He did not assault Alfieri, nor did he want to continue having any conflict with him.

There was an opportunity to settle the case without going to trial. CV happily accepted the opportunity while Alfieri had the audacity to add even more fabricated lies to his previous version of the facts.

All CV wanted was to make peace, as he said to me, he just wanted to shake Victor's hand, be cordial to each other... and live in harmony.



It is unfortunate that the unfair stress to which he was subjected was what eventually took a toll on his health. He developed an ulcer that led him to the Emergency Room. The next morning, he passed away.

Our words, actions... even our thoughts and intentions touch everyone around us -- EVERYONE --  especially those who are targeted as recipients of such words, actions or thoughts.

Let's live with awareness and treat others with respect, compassion and kindness. We are mirrors of one another. What we give, we receive.  Let's choose peace over war and conflict... And let's first make peace with ourselves so we can extend it to everyone else.

May CV's soul rest in peace. His memory and spirit will remain with us forever.

Disclaimer – As of October 15, 2018, all legal issues (Trevino vs. Alfieri) have been resolved. This resolution was reached during arbitration. There are no pending issues (Trevino vs. Alfieri) related to fraud or theft. The resolution was mutually agreeable. There will be no more posts written about this story.